#goals
We should stop comparing ourselves to anyone – online or offline.

But if we do wish to make comparisons, we should try not to compare people as a whole, but to compare processes and mechanisms, particular life situations, achievements or failures, and draw our inspiration and knowledge from them. Because, sometimes, the backstory behind a pretty picture might not be as glamourous as we imagine, just as the reality behind a successful person, someone one might admire, might be filled with years of hard work, of trial and error, of ups and downs.

However, comparisons do sometimes feel inevitable. Just like we use metaphors to explain things in a more artistic way and share feelings that have no word in the dictionary. So are comparisons used as the pragmatical method to delimit one from another. We seem to need a benchmark for anything.

But who sets up the rules, and are those the right standards to chase?

Isn’t it all really about perception? Society told us how to behave and who to be, what an accomplished person means – study and get a degree, get a house, buy a car, start a family, have a baby. We are fed with perfect scenarios of perfect people with perfect lives, when real life is anything but perfect. And we get trapped in manufactured insecurities that put our spirit down and other people above us.

Doubt of failing, of not being good enough kills our dream before even failing. We think we are not even worthy enough to try.

But we seem to forget the obvious. We are the society – online and offline. We call the shots. We just do it wrong.

Make comparison a learning system, not a torture device.